Upcoming Event: National Training on Ministry to Men

September 19, 2019By PK ManagerUncategorized

Are you a pastor or lay leader involved in ministry to men? You’re invited to an exciting training to equip and empower your ministry. Join hundreds of Men’s Ministry Leaders from local churches across Texas and the nation at THE 2019 NATIONAL TRAINING ON MINISTRY TO MEN. This unique event is a joint collaboration brought to you by The National Coalition of Ministries to Men and Promise Keepers.

The event will be held at Gateway Church, Dallas Campus, on October 22-23, 2019. In addition to compelling Keynote Speakers, you will also have 24 different workshops to choose from featuring the most important topics for pastors and lay leaders who are investing into men.

More details and registration instructions can be found at http://ncmm.org/nationaltraining/

Contact NCMM at 717.682.4517 or Clair@NCMM.org with any questions.

Masculinity is in Crisis—But We Can Turn It Around

August 19, 2019By Ken HarrisonUncategorized

An Open Letter to Men from Ken Harrison, Chairman and CEO of Promise Keepers.

Today the men of America are like a sleeping giant. And I believe God is waking us up.

God is bringing pressure on men like never before. Our culture is turning up its nose at our masculinity. We’re called “toxic.” If we’re honest with ourselves, we know we’ve often failed. We’ve failed because we haven’t heeded God’s Word.

Men, it’s time for us to turn things around.

We live in a nation where millions of babies conceived by men lose their lives to abortion each year. Where women march in the streets to protest the men who’ve preyed on them. And where the most vulnerable are trafficked as sex slaves by men and for men.

Men, we can change this! But first, we have to know what the Bible says about our purpose, our role, and our calling.

Sadly, many men in America have never been taught true masculinity. They fritter their lives away on sports, pornography, and video games. They’re workaholics, alcoholics, drug addicts, and pleasure addicts.

Not surprisingly, many of our brothers face isolation, loneliness, and depression.

There’s an epidemic of suicide among men aged 15-24 and among middle-aged men. Too many men are apathetic. Bored. Sick and tired of wasting their lives.

Men, this is not what God made us for.

Our Creator made us in His image. He gave us strength and drive. He filled us with passion and energy. He made us warriors. And He expects us to use these traits for His glory.

I believe every man of us is called to be a servant king. A leader. A man of destiny. So let’s help each other shake off our apathy. Let’s get radical about removing our secret sins. And let’s get real with God.

Men, it’s time for us to show the world what it really means to be a man of integrity.

It’s time to pour out our lives to bless our wives, our children, our churches, and our communities.

It’s time to bring revival to our nation. We — the men of America — can do this if we repent and turn to God.

Are you with me?

Why We All Need a Band of Brothers

August 17, 2019By Vance DayCulture, Uncategorized

As America commemorates the 75th anniversary of D-Day this year, Promise Keepers’ COO Vance Day tells about his personal connection to one of the “Band of Brothers” who stormed the beach in Normandy.

As the green light suddenly glowed, a young second lieutenant shuffled up to the door of the C-47 and leapt out into the darkness. Other troopers tumbled out behind him. Parachutes unfurled and clapped open.  

The young, green pilots flying the C-47s sped up and took evasive action to avoid the barrage of German flak and machine gun tracers filling the air. As a result, the U.S. paratroopers were jumping way too low and at too high a speed.  

The force of the propeller blast was so great that the chin strap on Lieutenant Buck Compton’s helmet snapped. The rope on his leg bag also broke, and he lost all his equipment. As he landed in a Normandy field in the early hours of the Allied invasion of Europe on June 6, 1944, Lt. Buck Compton had only a jump knife as a weapon and was miles from his assigned landing zone. 

By day’s end, Lt. Compton — one of 12 green American paratroopers — would help defeat an estimated 70 dug-in veteran German paratroopers. The team would also assist in destroying four 105 mm cannons at Brecourt Manor in Normandy, which were firing on the American infantry landing on Utah Beach. For his bravery and leadership under fire that day, Lt. Compton was awarded the Silver Star. 

I met Buck in 2000 as a result of producing a documentary on that battle. I interviewed Buck and found him as down to earth as any hero I had ever met. He became a personal friend. Eight years later, sitting at my kitchen counter, Buck came to know the saving grace of Jesus Christ and entered the last stage of his life a believer.

Born in Los Angeles, California, Lynn D. “Buck” Compton grew up playing sports and dreamed of being a major league baseball catcher. In 1939, he attended UCLA and earned a starting position on the varsity football squad and played in the 1943 Rose Bowl game. However, baseball was his first love. He played catcher for UCLA and assisted the team to several winning seasons. Of course, having Jackie Robinson as a teammate helped.

When World War II broke out, Buck was commissioned as a Second Lieutenant in the U.S. Army. He was assigned to the 506th Parachute Infantry Regiment as assistant platoon leader in the 2nd Platoon, E Company. He was young, in an elite outfit, and was about to partake in the largest military invasion in modern history.

One of the men in Lt. Compton’s platoon was an Oregonian named Don Malarkey. “He is one of the greatest guys I’ve ever known,” said Don Malarkey of Compton. Their friendship spanned years and provided great memories. Don was one of the 12 who attacked the German artillery at Brecourt Manor with Lt. Compton, winning the Bronze Star with Oak Leaf Clusters.  

The two fought together in Holland until Buck took a German round in the buttocks. Don led the effort to drag Buck to the back of a tank and off the battlefield. Buck rejoined the Company just before the Battle of the Bulge, when Hitler made a last great attempt to forestall the Allied advance by launching a surprise attack through the Ardennes forest at a weak point in the American lines.

The Germans had to take Bastogne, a Belgian city that controlled the road network in and throughout the Ardennes region. On December 16, 1944, the German army rolled over the American frontline units causing horrific casualties. Gen. Dwight D. Eisenhower had only two divisions in reserve that he could possibly throw into the fray in hopes of blunting the German advance long enough for other units to be moved to the battle from other sectors.  

The 101st Airborne Division was being rested and refitted in Mourmelon, France, after fighting a grueling 78 days in the muck and mud of Holland. Lt. Compton, Sgt. Malarkey, and the rest of E Company had turned in their equipment and ammunition and were waiting a total refitting of combat gear and winter clothing when the German divisions hit the American lines. Despite their depleted number and the lack of sufficient equipment and supplies, Eisenhower deployed the 101st to Bastogne and gave orders that the city had to be held at all costs.  

Buck Compton and Don Malarkey were trucked in an overnight express to Bastogne and dumped out west of the city in their summer issue clothing, with essentially no ammunition and in weather that would soon dip below zero. Malarkey recalls Buck asking, “Do you have any ammo for that carbine?” Don, like many of the other men in this unit, didn’t. Buck returned with a clip and handed it to Don, saying, “Here, this may come in handy.” Off they went to stop the Germans who outnumbered the 101st (15 to 1, by some estimates), outgunned the Americans, and were rolling toward them with tanks.

Lt. Compton did not recall the siege of Bastogne with any great fondness. “We were outnumbered, surrounded, and without proper equipment. We lost a lot of men — good men.” He and his platoon endured the rain of fire dropped on them during the nine days they were surrounded. He saw his men killed, and two of his closest friends each lost a leg. After the 101st was resupplied by air and the siege was broken, Buck got trench foot and was shipped to the rear. 

Author Stephen E. Ambrose recounts the remainder of E Company’s service in his book Band of Brothers, which was later made into an epic miniseries released in 2001 by HBO. The miniseries features both Buck Compton (Neal McDonough) and Don Malarkey (Scott Grimes) as central figures in E Company. 

After his recovery, Lt. Compton was put in charge of all Army athletic events in the European Theater. His service days ended with an office in Paris before being discharged stateside as a First Lieutenant.

Buck did not consider himself a war hero when he returned home. “I did my duty and came home — that was it.” After the war, Buck finished his degree at UCLA, worked as a detective for the Los Angeles Police Department, and then passed the California Bar Exam. Eventually Buck became a prosecutor for Los Angeles County. One of his last convictions was that of Sirhan Sirhan for the assassination of Senator Robert Kennedy.

In 1970, Governor Ronald Reagan appointed Buck to the California Court of Appeals for the Second Judicial District. Judge Compton served on the bench until his retirement in 1990. He moved to Mt. Vernon, Washington, to be near his two daughters and their families and provided weekly policy and political commentary on local radio. “I’ve lived a full life and have no regrets. I’m just glad to be around,” he often said.

Personally, I owe Buck a great deal. He was a mentor, a friend, and a colleague. It was Buck who encouraged me to place my name into consideration for appointment as a Circuit Court judge. He believed in me and supported me; we traveled together for 10 years all through North America and Europe, even lecturing on leadership and history at the White House and before members of Congress. 

Buck was thrilled when the Governor appointed me to the bench. He traveled to Oregon and spoke at my investiture (the public robing ceremony) as a judge. I didn’t know what Buck would say about me, but I was floored when he told the audience that he wanted to be like me. I was flabbergasted. Here was my hero, saying he wanted to be like me?

As I’ve pondered that moment, I’ve come to realize that all of us need brothers who will come alongside us and encourage us, strengthen us, and hold us accountable. I thought I was the main one who benefited from my relationship with Buck, but apparently there were traits in me that helped him be a better man as well.

That’s a big part of what Promise Keepers is all about. Through our upcoming stadium event July 31–August 1, 2020, we want you to see there’s an army of guys like you who want to be the men God intends them to be. But we also want to help you connect locally to a small band of brothers who make you stronger in ways you may have never considered — like Buck did for me.

Four months after speaking at my investiture, Buck passed away. He was 91. I still miss him greatly. We all owe a great debt to Buck and to each of those who have served our country. Many never came back. Please take time to remember those who have served — in whatever conflict — during this 75th-Anniversary season of D-Day. If you’re able, reach out and say thank you. Without brave soldiers who step up to defend the republic, we would not have the legacy we possess to pass on to the next generation.

This story originally appeared in the Promise Keepers newsletter. For more content like this, sign up here for the Promise Keepers newsletter.

The 2020 PK Conference: A Rally Cry for Men to Transform Our Nation

August 17, 2019By Ken HarrisonUncategorized

God designed men to lead our families. To cherish our wives. To be true brothers to other men. To protect the defenseless. To guard our communities and nation from harm.

But somehow, our God-given role has been forgotten. It’s been lost in a murky sea of gender fluidity, changing values, and distractions such as pornography, video games, and binge TV.

Promise Keepers is here to take it back. We’re here to rally our brothers as servant kings, leaders who will take a stand as men and change our nation for Christ.

That’s why we’re calling men to come together July 31 – August 1, 2020, at AT&T Stadium in Arlington, Texas, home of the Dallas Cowboys in the Dallas/Ft. Worth Metroplex.

We’re trusting God for 80,000+ men to fill the stadium. We will also simulcast the event to a projected 5 million men, spreading the impact far across the nation and the world.

Speakers will preach the Word of God with power. We’ll worship together as brothers and shake the stadium’s foundations. We’ll fall on our faces in repentance. And we’ll return home changed men.

But the impact won’t stop with the event. We’re asking men to join small, local teams for accountability and changemaking in their communities. We’ll stay connected and focused through a Promise Keepers app. Together we’re building a movement, not an events ministry.

You need to be part of this! Talk to your pastor. Get a group of guys together. Mark your calendar for July 31–August 1, 2020. Plan to come to Dallas-Ft. Worth or host a simulcast in your community.

The men of America have been asleep. It’s time for us to wake up. Our families, our churches, our communities, and our nation need us. Don’t miss this.

Get tickets now and join us for Promise Keepers 2020.

Our Next Big Stadium Event Will Be at the AT&T Stadium Home of the Dallas Cowboys in Arlington, Texas

May 22, 2019By PK ManagerUncategorized

You are an important part of the Promise Keepers family. That’s why I want you to be among the first to know we’ve just announced the location of our next national conference:

On July 31-August 1, 2020, a projected 80,000+ men will join together to raise the roof at the AT&T Stadium in Arlington, Texas, home of the Dallas Cowboys! We will also simulcast the event to a projected 5 million men, spreading the impact far across our nation and the world.

Mark your calendar now. Starting June 1, you and your friends can register for the event at promisekeepers.org for the ability to order tickets before they are released to the public. I’ll share more details in the weeks ahead.

Why Promise Keepers’ next national conference in the Dallas-Ft. Worth area is so important:

Can you imagine what would happen if the men of America stepped forward and truly lived out their responsibilities before God?

Can you imagine the sea change we would witness across our nation?

For too long, society has pushed men to be passive and effeminized. We’re told we’re “toxic.” Men are taught to sit by and do nothing while our families crumble around us. But the Bible has something else to say. “Act like men,” the Apostle Paul said, “be strong” (1 Corinthians 16:13 NASB). (Continue reading below)

Ken Harrison shares some exciting news about what’s in the near future for Promise Keepers on FamilyTalk.

That’s why our next event will feature speakers who will preach from the Word of God with power and inspire men to take up their responsibilities as servant kings. Our worship will shake the stadium’s foundations. And we’re planning for our impact to continue long after the event as teams of men rise up to change their communities for Christ.

We need you to be part of this. 

First, please join me in praying. Let’s get on our knees and ask God to make this event a catalyst that raises up an army of warriors for Christ who will be leaders in their homes, their churches, and their communities.

Second, join us in Dallas! We need men of all ages, all races, and from all walks of life to be part of this. Because we are stronger together. 

Third, get your church to show the simulcast of the event live. You might not be able to make it to Dallas, but you can gather men together to sing the same songs, listen to the same speakers and pray the same prayers with us. Bring your sons, your father, your neighbor and let’s have the men of our nation filling out voices in unison to praise our Lord. 

Watch your inbox for more details in the weeks to come. Registration starts at 12:01 am on June 1 at promisekeepers.org. Let’s make this an event to remember.

Ken Harrison

Chairman & CEO

Promise Keepers Launches New Era of Men’s Ministry

The event is projected to draw 80,000 men from across the country and around the world, with another 5 million participating via simulcast.

Ken Harrison, CEO and Chairman of Promise Keepers, revealed what was new and different about the new era of Promise Keepers:

“It’s the difference between analog and digital. Today, our goal is to get men digitally integrated — something that simply wasn’t possible before. Assembling men in the 1990s by the tens and hundreds of thousands had never been done before — but what about after? What about when men leave the stadium and go home? Many things were tried, but it just wasn’t possible to effectively network, encourage and strengthen men at home.”

“Today, we can not only do stadium events, digital integration allows us to provide the full spectrum of men’s ministry: a catalytic event that sparks fellowship, discipleship, and the formation and nurturing of change making teams of men in communities everywhere, working together to impact the core of our culture.”

Ken Harrison went on to discuss the critical need for clarity about what it means to be a good man in a culture increasingly toxic to masculinity:

“Psychologists claim masculinity is toxic. Governments and public schools mandate and proselytize that everyone must select our own gender identity, which can correlate with assigned sex at birth or can differ from it. That there are no right answers when it comes to being a man or a woman. Pop culture icons are lionized for their decision to raise their children gender neutral so they can decide what gender they want to be. And of course, there’s the infamous Gillette commercial, which hit bottom and kept digging. The result, men are fearful, passive and distracted, focusing on sports, Fortnite and porn instead of rising up and leading their families. In this swirling time of confusion, Promise Keepers is raising high the standard of biblical masculinity without apology and rallying men everywhere to join them.”

One of the most timely aspects of the new era of Promise Keepers is the prospect of drawing multiple generations to the AT&T Stadium event. Judge Vance Day, COO and general counsel of Promise Keepers said:

“One of the most powerful benefits of Promise Keepers is the ability for sons, fathers, and grandfathers to experience the event together. While Baby Boomers remember this with fondness, today’s millennials, who are coming into their own as husbands, fathers and in their careers, long to have the same experience with their own fathers. That’s why tickets for the AT&T Stadium event will reflect a significant discount for intergenerational groups.”

Day revealed that Promise Keepers is also introducing a new format:

“Instead of having multiple regional events, the new era of Promise Keepers will feature one massive event for the entire country each year that will be simulcast to locations around the world. And because men will be drawn from the entire country, the event will now consist of a session Friday night and Saturday, a concert Saturday night, and an optional day of service Sunday.”

Preregistration for the AT&T Stadium event begins June 1, 2019. Speakers and musicians will be announced in fall 2019. Stay tuned for more information as it is released via emails (like this one) and our Facebook page: www.Facebook.com/PromiseKeepers.

Men, listen up!

February 14, 2019By Ken HarrisonUncategorized

I just got done giving a presentation to a large audience when the usual line of people formed to ask questions or give their input to the talk. Then I noticed the desperate face of a desperate man. “I need to talk to you,” he said. I shook more hands and answered more questions and then as the crowd died down, he and I were able to move to a private corner to grab a few minutes uninterrupted. “My wife doesn’t respect me!” he said. “My kids don’t listen to me!” His face was shrouded in anger, the kind of anger that comes from pain. We settled down for a long conversation.

He was a retired Marine, and he looked like one. He was lean and muscular and stared through me as we talked. We went through the usual symptoms of the problem until we got to the root. He just didn’t listen to his family. “Man,” I told him, “if there’s one thing you can offer your wife and kids, it’s to listen. You can’t imagine how important it is to them that you just hear them out. Don’t have a solution to the problem, don’t offer to help, just listen and try to empathize.”

“I try!” he said, “but it’s all just so boring. My daughter goes on and on about who’s dating who. She talks about all her stupid friends. It drives me crazy. I just don’t care. I sit at the dinner table and wait for it all just to be over so I can turn on the TV and unwind.”

“You know,” I said to him, “when I was a newlywed, my wife was traumatized because her jewelry store had been burglarized. She went on and on about it. In those days I was a cop in a brutal area of Los Angeles. I averaged over one gun arrest and two felony arrests every day. I had to buy six watches in one year because they kept getting shattered while fighting with some bad guy in a gutter or tackling some gangster in a parking lot. A jewelry store getting burglarized was nothing in my world.”

“But as I watched her face while she told her story, I realized that she felt violated by the fact that some bad person had broken into her store and taken some of her inventory. I listened intently to her because it was important to her. I don’t know why I had the wisdom to do that, but God gave it to me.”

“Who’s dating who may not matter to you, but it matters a lot to your daughter, and for that reason, you should give her your full attention. She’s developing her expectations of the man she’ll marry based on how her dad treats her — you. Are you teaching her that she’s important and deservesto be listened to? If you’re bored by what matters to her, she’s picking up on it—and she’ll carry that with her for the rest of her life.” “You need to teach her that what is important to her is important to you—simply because it’s important to her.”Everything I just said to you ain’t bad marriage advice either,” I said. “You’re a Marine. I doubt that your wife doesn’t respect you — but I’m betting she doesn’t feel cherished by you. She doesn’t feel cherished because you don’t listen to her.”

I spoke again in that city about six months later, and that same Marine came up to me afterward, he had the same desperate look in his eyes. “How’s it going with your family?” I asked him.

“Well you know,” he said, “I tried to take your advice, but it just doesn’t work. I try to listen but my mind just drifts away.” He settled in for another long conversation where I’d give him advice that he’d ignore. Instead, I stood up and clapped him on the shoulder. “If you want to take up my time again, make sure you know the names of your daughter’s friends next time and her boyfriend if she has one. Tell me all about them.”

I spoke again in that city again about a year later. He wasn’t there. We men understand that our responsibilities are to protect and provide for our families. Often, the most important thing we can provide is to make them feel loved. All too often, men listen for an assignment: we listen for something to do or for a problem to solve. Sometimes, just listening and caring is all they really need. To be a true disciple of Jesus, a person must die to themselves. Part of dying to self is taking a genuine interest in the cares of others. Things that wouldn’t normally interest us become interesting — simply because they matter to someone we love. As you examine your life in Christ, don’t look at the outside — whether you’re following some set of rules. Look on the inside. Do you take a genuine interest in what’s important to others? Do you pray daily for them? Do you authentically wish the best for them? If not, take a deep look into your heart and ask God to help you to see others through the eyes with which He sees them. He will answer that prayer, and the world will begin to look vastly different and more interesting.


This article also appeared in the Christian Post.

Abortion is not politics. It’s murder.

February 8, 2019By Ken HarrisonUncategorized

Promise Keepers is not political. Politics won’t bring peace and joy to the world. Only the grace and love of Jesus will do that.

Abortion is not politics. It’s murder. What the state of New York did by passing a law that would allow the killing of a baby that could easily live outside the womb is an evil that is unfathomable. A man of God has the responsibility to protect those who cannot protect themselves. Here is what we stand for:

1. Promise Keepers don’t cause unwanted pregnancies because we understand that sex is confined to marriage only.

2. If we sin and cause an unplanned pregnancy outside of marriage, we commit to helping raise that child. We support with our time, our money and our love. There would be substantially fewer women choosing to have abortions if the men who fathered the baby lived up to their responsibilities.

3. We never condemn a woman who is considering an abortion. She needs our support and our help. Perhaps through love and the Gospel of Jesus Christ, she will understand that she carries the greatest gift a person can give another: life.

4. We commit to fighting against any politician who promotes abortion and to supporting leaders who stand for life.

This is not politics. It’s life. We are the men of God and will will defend the defenseless. Are you with us?!?

-Ken Harrison
Chairman and CEO
Promise Keepers

This article also appeared in Charisma News.